|Chapter 1 & 2 - Bad Body Fever, Resisting the Cure
||[Oct. 3rd, 2006|06:44 pm]
When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies: Discussion
These are just some personal notes on the first couple chapters. Add anything from chapters one and two that you found particularly noteworthy!
Previous definitions of words that "fat" originated from: fertile, copious, to gush forth, rubust, well filled-out, of sizeable proportions, thick, unusually large substantial and impressive, productive, fruitful. These are all positive things. It wasn't until recently that "fat" became a bad thing.
More fleshy and curvy = more womanly, while more slender = more manly. Many women subconsciously desire to look more manly to fit in a man-oriented world. Some women also desire to take up less space because they feel unworthy of being out there, achieving things, and being noticed.
-giving up false hope, giving up the disguise, giving up misdirected anger, giving up mother-bashing, giving up fat-talk sisterhood.
"getting beyond body-hatred requires that you live in the present rather than the future. You have to continually remind yourself that your body, as it exists right now is just fine. The excitement of making plans to magically reconfigure yourself -- your future -- is gone."
"settle into our bodies rather than renovate them feels more like a death sentence than merely a loss of hope".
In reading the latter half of the second chapter, I came to a HUGE realization of where all my mouth hunger is coming from! I have thought a lot about this, and couldn't put my finger on why it was happening until now. I have successfully been able to banish all (or nearly all) bad body thoughts. Therefore, bad body thoughts no longer disguise my emotions. Because my inner caretaker and I are not ready to deal with those emotions yet, I am leaning on food. It makes perfect sense, and it means that not all is lost. I am still going to re-read the first part of this book, though, because it's always good as a refresher course. Plus, I know several of you have just started it and it would be nice to be near the same place in the book.
Some questions, food for thought... feel free to answer in comments or expand in your own post.
-What WOULD happen if women stopped hating their bodies?
-What if nobody could gain or lose another pound, and all bodies were considered equally beautiful?
-What have you put on hold "until I lose weight"?
For those of you who have done it already... what was it like to get rid of your "thin" clothes?